How To Say No When You Want To Say Yes

leadership stress management Sep 14, 2020

Have you ever found yourself saying yes to something and eventually (or immediately) regretted that you didn't say no? 

As a recovering people-pleaser I understand this urge to always say yes because you don't want to disappoint anyone. But eventually saying yes when I should have said no led to overwhelm and burnout. 

Sometimes the hardest time to say no is when the opportunity is a good one, but not great for you. 


Maybe you've been asked to do something you are great at or passionate about. Or, it's a request from someone you've always wanted to work with. Or, maybe saying yes will open up new opportunities. But in all reality no matter how good the opportunity is, it simply doesn't fit into your current schedule and priorities. 

Here's a script for how to say no when you want to say yes. 

Years ago we started giving our clients a script for how to say no when they wanted to say yes. Sometimes you just simply don't know what to say so you can bow out with grace. The script is included as part of coaching in the Art of the P.A.U.S.E Masterclass & Training (Saying No is what the "S" in P.A.U.S.E stands for)  but here's a similar script you can work from. 

"Thank you so much for thinking of me and asking me to be involved. However, when I look at my current schedule and priorities I will not do the job with the excellence it deserves. Thank you again for asking me to be involved. Good luck finding the right person for this." 

If you learn how to say no when you want to say yes, you will be happier and healthier. No more regret or overwhelm. Try it today! 

With grace & grit,